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[quote=Anonymous]My husband can never be wrong about anything it seems. Example: I was giving the dogs their heartworm meds yesterday. There are two dogs, one larger, one smaller, therefore two different doses of Heartgard. The meds come in a meaty chew and one is definitely smaller than the other.  My husband kept insisting they were the same size, where they clearly physically were not. They were right in front of him! I was trying to say "look they are two different sizes" and he started talking over me repeating over and over again, "they are the same size they are the same size they are the same size". I finally raised my voice to be heard at which point he was all "stop getting angry, you always get angry".

Today I asked him why he did that and he said "I was wrong, they were different sizes, and I'm sorry". I said 'that's fine, but what do you think a normal response would be if someone did that to you'. He admitted he'd get angry but said "I'm not going to listen to you when you get angry".  I said "Then I guess the proper response is going to be for me to stop talking and walk out of the room".

Now that's fine in a situation like above, I can leave, but it's not always that simple - sometimes what I'm telling him is much more important than a dose of heartworm medication. This dynamic has occurred when the kids were little and they were sick, when there are financial issues, etc. He would say he wants to make shared decisions but my opinion or even the information I've gathered (such as from a doctor's appointment) seem to be worthless to him.

The kids are now grown and I'm wondering if this is enough to leave him over. I feel like a bitchy shrew all the time. I don't want to be that person and am not with my friends, male and female.[/quote]

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