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[quote=Anonymous]My husband and I will both be "back at work" (remotely) in mid-June. Our son will be five months old then. Our plan was to get a nanny share with one other family. If we're going to do that, we really need to start finding folks - we have a recommendation on a great nanny, but have not yet started looking for another family.

But we're really unsure of when it's okay to start this. For context - both our jobs are safe and completely doable remotely. We are not essential workers by any definition. Neither of us would be fired if we were having to juggle work and childcare. My job would be super understanding and completely flexible - there are already people working remotely while caring for their children. Lots of mid thirties professionals with kids, so everyone's kinda in the same boat, but it's also a tech company, mostly men - I think most people are doing half or less of the childcare, not 100%. His job would be a bit less flexible. Again, he's not going to get fired or anything, but the people on his team who are caring for children are using leave for part of the day. We're not yet sure exactly what the deal is on that, but it wouldn't be as flexible. He'd probably have to eat up at least some leave to do childcare during the day, and it may not be long term sustainable if he's taking leave, as he doesn't have much saved up (used a bunch of it for paternity leave). Plus, beyond even official policies, we would both take a big hit in productivity, which we don't feel great about.

So my questions: 1) We're in DC. When is it okay based on the official DC guidelines for us to participate in a nanny share? Seems like right now, that would go against at least the spirit of the stay-at-home order, but that ends in early June. I believe they've announced what the "phases" of reopening will look like. At what phase would this be okay? 2) When is it ethically okay, in our situation, to participate in a nanny share, assuming that's later than what the guidelines would allow? 3) Do either of these answers change depending on the nanny and/or other family's social distancing situation?

As a guiding principle - we're not extremists on either side, so if you're gonna say "social distancing is for suckers, we're having a house party right now" or "you cannot interact with another human until there's a vaccine" that's not really helpful. We're just concerned citizens trying to do the right thing for our community, our jobs, and our family, while recognizing in a ton of ways, we're very, very lucky, particularly right now. [/quote]

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