Reply to Need advice re: large age gap

Forum Index » General Parenting Discussion

Reply to "Need advice re: large age gap"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]I have a 7.5 year old and a 1.5 year old. We planned to have kids closer together but this is just the way it worked out. Things had been fine for the first year and DD loved her little brother to pieces but that was when life was normal and DD was in school and other activities. So she really wasn’t home much except for nights and weekends. Since we have been isolating at home it has become very apparent to DD that DS gets much more attention than her and she is extremely upset by it. In addition, she thinks her little brother is very annoying and gets into all over her things, which is true.

Over the past week DD has had a few big meltdowns over all of this and truly feels we have replaced her with DS, don’t love her as much, don’t give her enough attention, and overall that DS has ruined her life and she wishes he was never born. She is right in the fact that he gets more attention and I truly feel awful that she feels this way overall. The reality is that DS needs constant supervision because he is such a daredevil and is relatively fearless, so it’s truly a matter of keeping him safe (our house is child proofed but he still finds no shortage of ways to get into trouble). I do carve out time for DD just the two of us every day but it’s not enough - and it doesn’t compare to the time I spend with the DS (which she is welcome to be part of but frequently chooses not to). DH and I are trying to juggle working from home plus childcare and so many other things and it’s all just miserable. Most of the time we give to DD is around homeschooling because it takes so long to help her with her work.

I am starting to worry that DD is going to be permanently impacted by this and it will also effect her relationship with her brother for years to come. I know she needs more than what she is getting I just don’t know how to make things better.

Is anyone else dealing with something like this? Or have any advice? [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics