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[quote=Anonymous]Sounds like DH's kids have different mothers since they have a different visitation schedule (unless the 11 year old is at boarding school)?  What do they do now when they are with DH at the same time? Share or have their own room?  And do they get along/like each other? They might not mind sharing a room if they are used to it.

As someone with divorced parents (and multiple step-siblings on both sides and who had to share a room every summer/school break until I was 18 with my brother when when we visited our dad's house), I would propose this:

-Two older girls share the bigger bedroom with twin beds (bunk beds are only fun until a point), they get to help say in decorating etc. and it's always "their" space.  Invest in a nice queen size sofa couch or futon for the play room and use that as a guest room when folks visit.  By letting the older girls have the bigger room you signal that you truly t think of them as part of the family (i.e., if all three were your own children, you would probably make the single take the smaller room if the two others had to share, so it should be the same here).

When I was a teen my dad wasn't remarried yet so this wasn't an issue (but, because we were only there in the summers/holidays, he only had a two bedroom condo).  On my mom's side, my step siblings usually visited when we were at my dad's so they used our bedrooms while we were gone and we all bunked up together on the rare occasion we overlapped.  I know my step-siblings never felt like it was "their" home-- having their own room or designated space, even if they had to share, would have made a huge difference.

Funny thing with my dad-- remarried when we and my stepmother's kids were grown/having our own kids.  They moved into a place with 3 extra bedrooms (plenty of room to visit!) but you can tell it's my step-mom's "home"--- one of the extra rooms is an ensuite loft/very private and bigger than the rooms on the same floor as the master bedroom and they have to share a hall bath.  They always put my brother or me in the ensuite room first . . . unless my stepsister is also coming to visit.  Then you have to start in one of the smaller rooms or move from the ensuite room to a smaller room once she arrives!!  Definitely makes us feel like we are truly "guests" of my stepmother and not part of the family.

Good luck, though, with DH-- as another poster pointed out it is very telling how he might treat your child given his lack of interest in his own children's well-being/adjustment to the new blended family.  If this is his their marriage, you also know he either makes very poor choices or doesn't think much of marriage vows. 
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