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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ve been struggling a lot since this quarantine with mess. My 1 and 3 year olds easily trash the entire house every day. It’s really stressful to me and I just feel really angry and upset about it. Rage is probably the right word. Before we would spend Friday-Sunday home together and it was fun, but we did a lot of activities. I have boxes and after they’re done playing with one box, they cleaned up before moving onto the next one. I think now they’re just incredibly bored so they move from box to box really fast and get upset and tantrum about any sort of cleaning. [b]I feel like my only options are tantrums or mess everywhere.[/b] It makes me so stressed out and I can’t really de stress at all. They’re basically little hoarders. They fill bags and shopping carts with junk and push them around the house and dump them.

Obviously this is my fault, kids are naturally messy and I just really like things a certain way. The playroom being a disaster wouldn’t bother me, but it’s every single room in my house. After bed I spend about 3 hours cleaning every night (and by cleaning I mean just picking up and doing dishes, not really cleaning)  and then it all starts over again the next day. I really wish I could keep their attention on something longer but I can’t. I did try picking up less but then the kids can’t find anything and I get even more upset and stressed about everything.

I just feel like I’m becoming a mom I didn’t want to become. I don’t want to be a mom who doesn’t let my kids play. And now I scream a lot. Daily they paint outside on a tarp in their underwear. I like arts and crafts but the kids don’t like it and just like spreading toys around.

I put a lock on the playroom closet (an eye hook) so they can’t just dump every box at once and I cleared a lot of toys out so they could focus on a few, but nothing really helps. [/quote]

Choose tantrums. Seriously. Especially if it's important to you and your mental health, a three year old can be taught to cleanup after himself. It'll be a tough couple weeks as you enforce this, but your life will be so much better after. [/quote]

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