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[quote=Anonymous]On the one hand, it's her hair.  On the other hand, my answer would change depending on how she's styled her hair and how much of this is about autonomy and self-love.  You describe her hair as "a lot of work", "mostly managed" by you, and "she can't handle it".  I'm struck by how little joy there is in any of those words.  And how wanting to shave her head seems to be about wanting to avoid all of this "work" vs being excited by the possibilities of having a shaved head.  So my short answer is that if she really wants to shave it, I'd let her -- but would want her to be clear that it might never grow back the way it is now, and that if she wants longer hair at some point, it will mean quite a bit of time dealing with mid-length hair, which might have it's own styling challenges.  If she were my kid, I'd ask her to try getting it professionally braided.  I'd also take her to a natural hair salon to discuss style options.  Since those options are not possible right now, would she consider braiding it -- which means that it wouldn't have to be combed every day?  Or cornrowed -- which might last a couple of weeks?

tldr: The issue seems to be "managing" her hair vs her genuinely wanting a shaved head.  I'd push her to explore some other options before taking this step.  [/quote]

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