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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How can someone watch their significant other burn down their relationship for a fling or affair with a new person and...be ok with it and stay?

What goes through their mind?[/quote]

I think it's tricky.

I think a lot of cheaters are narcissists and use gaslighting over the years and it becomes almost like emotional abuse so that their spouse loses confidence or becomes depressed. They can be manipulative and charming and when caught act genuinely upset and tell all kinds of lies and have a 'honeymoon phase'.  They beg, they cry, they swear it will never happen again and it was not love.  It was a big mistake and they are so, so, so, so sorry.  They do therapy and show that they are serious.  Some times they are, sometimes they aren't and they do it again. 
Now- it's the second time that would be a deal breaker for good.

I think some women without their own financial income are worried about losing a lifestyle.  They don't want to lose $.

Then, some do not want to have to give up some holidays and weekends with their kids.  They feel like they have more control over their children than what a partner's future partner's/boyfriends/girlfriends could inflict.

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