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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have a ton of friends who don’t have kids yet (we are in our mid 30s). After being stuck in our house for 30 days straight with our 3 kids (including a newborn) I would tell my friends to think long and hard before you have kids. I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy. This has potentially been the worst month of my life. Maybe if our kids were older (they are toddlers) or we didn’t have to work and take care of them at the same time I wouldn’t feel this way but I am sure I am just reiterating what most working parents feel like during this quarantine and pandemic. I love my kids but if I knew there was a chance that I could be stuck inside with them for days and months on end with no end in sight I would highly rethink having them or at least so many of them. [/quote]

You kind of sound like you need counseling, therapy, parenting classes ... something.

I have 4 under 8 (3 'homeschooling' per their school system, 1 too young for school but we are creating work for him so he has something while they're doing schooling).  Husband and I are also working from home during this.  Sure, it's crazy.  It's stressful.  It's exhausting.  But it is so so so delightful and wonderful.  We have done so much more, our lives are a slower pace.  We can play games.  We can wade in the creek.  We can hike.  We can cook together.  We can just [b]be family [/b] without constant outside distractions, without a to-do list, without meetings, appointments, practices,  obligations, chaos.  Working + taking care of your kids shouldn't put that heavy of a burden on you.  Just enjoy them.  Ask what they want to do (within reason, clearly).  Example - we very occasionally (being honest here) have played games as a family.  It's always been like a 'ok fINE get candyland' and someone ends up crying/tantrum/cheating/whatever.  Then we say well games away, it's time for bed/bath/dinner/homework/church/girl scouts/soccer/whatever.  Now, we can literally just play games.  Be together.  Play charades for 2 hours, even if I feel bored - the kids are learning from us, and not just 'school' - emotional regulation, stress, response to situations.

Also, what kind of friend / person are you that in real life, you would say to people "now that I have spent extensive time with my children, I want to give you the unsolicited advice that having children is the worst decision of my life and in my entirely absurd selfish mind, I want to tell you, even though you did not ask and do not care my opinion, that I absolutely think you should not reproduce"..... Your misery does not mean you get to decide to demand that all of your childless friends get to hear your diatribe and feel judged / patronized / etc.  You are REALLY weird.  And I'm honestly fearful for your kids.  Can someone else maybe take them?   You...need a mental health break.  [/quote]

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