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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am at the end of my rope.
I have gone to the grocery store twice in the past 10 days and when I get home, it's been to an irritated, annoyed husband. 
He admittedly gets extremely stressed out when watching the kids (1yo & 4yo). 
When asked what is wrong, he says "you get to do whatever you want, when you want". (um hello I was at the grocery store buying food for our family).

[b]He has many other issues (alcohol, adhd, anxiety), [/b]but my main question is, do other people deal with this on a daily basis? Or is this part of the bigger issues?
The push back and annoyance re: watching kids? Are all dads like this?

Other examples...
On Sunday I asked him to take our DS for a scooter ride and dog for a walk so I could clean the basement and put laundry away while the baby was napping.
He responds like a teenager, annoyed that I'm "kicking him out of the house because I decide it's time". 
I would have loved to switch places in that scenario, but he won't put away laundry, so here we are..
If I am out at the store, he will call me "[Baby] is up" when she wakes up from a nap..and then get more & more irritated until I come home. 
I have started saying "Ok, then take care of her", which I know is not going to help anything, but I.AM.SO.FED.UP.

I understand he needs "breaks" more than other people, and I'm not going to leave my kids in an unpleasant situation, so I primarily care for them on the weekend. 
We both work FT during the week and I am the primary earner before anyone asks. I also do all bills/daycare/FSA/etc. He does cook.

If this is common, how you do deal with it? 
I feel so guilty thinking of disrupting my kids nuclear family (they of course love him), but it is driving me crazy! 
I literally have no time to myself, while he has the majority of a weekend day every weekend. When I point this out, his [extremely immature] response: you're the mom / you're the one who wanted kids..
 
I also worry that the kids will soon start to notice his impatience. 
Friends and family have noticed it (for example, him getting frustrated w/ kids when we are out to dinner), so I know it's not just me...

Any advice is welcome.
When he CAN pull it together and stay calm, i love being together as a family. I still see the person I love and I want that so badly for my kids.

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