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[quote=Anonymous]I have been good friends with another woman and her family for many years now.  I value my relationship with them a lot - we've been through a lot together and I really do think she's a wonderful person.  Unfortunately, over the years of our relationship it's become obvious how different we are in a lot of ways, and over the years, she has been making choices that are very misaligned with some strongly held values of mine.  She has noticed that I have been distant and it has been harming our relationship.

On one hand, I don't agree with the choices she's making and maybe the relationship has run it's course?  It's come to a point where I have a tough time having a conversation with her because she'll talk about these things that are important to her and I have nothing to say because I so strongly disagree and anything I would say just sounds mean.  So I gloss over things, but it's become clear that I'm not being honest.  On the other hand, I also truly believe that people are different and that my friends don't have to be exactly aligned with what I think is right.  I'm sure if I looked at the way I live my own life objectively, I'm being a bit of a hypocrite.  And so what if we disagree - it would be lovely to have an open and honest conversation and still respect each other as people.

Has anyone been in this kind of situation before?  How did you handle it?  Any advice for me - even harsh?  I'd love for someone to set me straight and get me to be more open-minded.  I feel guilty that I feel this way.  [/quote]

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