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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]During a time when things are calm I would tell him "When you yell while I'm talking, that is not a respectful way for a husband to treat a wife.  You are taking out you anxiety and depression on me. You have an anger management problem. For you to push me is COMPLETELY UNACCEPTABLE.  If you do not go to therapy to work towards changing this, I will work towards divorcing you. I really do not want to do that, but I will not be verbally abused and stay in a relationship where I am not respected.

But OP?  I would leave anyone who pushed me, even once. Today he pushes, tomorrow he throws. Pushing you is physically abusive. [/quote]

Thanks so much. We had a big talk like this, over a year ago. He went to anger management therapy for several months and then stopped due to an unexpected event in the family that necessitated us to put several things on hold. This is where I got a bit stuck in terms of my own decision making, because several times during the marriage he has manifested willingness to work on his issues (despite low self-awareness and emotional regulation in the moment). He is not at his best right now.

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