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[quote=Anonymous]I’m sorry, OP.  It sounds like you’re doing as much as you can to solve this but this isn’t your problem to solve.  Your partner needs to be willing to do the work and that starts with remorse and full disclosure.  It doesn’t appear that your spouse is remorseful and is still lying to you.  In this case you are never going to be secure and stable in your relationship.  Your therapist is absolutely correct, you need to decide what you want.

As far as I can see you have two choices- you can stay in your open marriage, institute use of condoms and regular STD testing if you choose to continue having an intimidate relationship with your spouse and live whatever life that path leads you down.  Or you can decide that you don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you exclusively, who you can’t trust, who lies to you and, frankly, who is setting a horrible example for your kids as to what a healthy adult relationship looks like.  Only you can make that decision.  You may want to meander over to survivinginfidelity.com for some additional resources.  [/quote]

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