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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have the same age children, 3 of them. I mean this in the kindest way possible, OP: stop focusing on yourself so much. You are the grown-up and the rock to your children. You be brave and focus on your babies and how fortunate you are to be their mother whom they love and look to for all their needs and joys and fears and strength. All that worry and depression is a black hole and it will eat you alive and your kids will pay for it. [/quote]

This post should be removed.  It’s offensive and dismisses the very real illness known as depression. Would you tell a diabetic to just work harder at producing more insulin? Or tell someone with a broken leg to just walk it off? Messages like this only serve to make the person struggling with it feel even worse. There is a real chemical component to this.

I feel sorry for your children that they have a parent that is so ignorant. God help them if they have any kind of mental health issues. [/quote]

Np. I know what you are saying, but I would tell a diabetic to change their diet and exercise, and someone with a broke leg to use crutches and be more careful.

It’s partly chemical and definitely anxiety plays a part here, but she does need to take ownership that as the mother of 3(!!) wallowing is really not on the table.

Meds may be an option but going to doctor may be risky and most meds need follow up and some need bloodwork.  I wouldn’t be trying a new Med while hospitals are overwhelmed and we are sheltered.

So look for ways to make changes yourself. Put baby in stroller and sit out in backyard and get some some while older two make bubbles.

Give in to screen time and let them watch all of DisneyPlus.

And kick your DH in the arse to help out. I can’t imagine any WAH job that is that busy or vital that he can’t pop in and give you a break. Unless he is a COVID19 genetic researcher he is taking advantage of you. [/quote]

Also btw I speak from experience with a family full of mental illness and various outcomes. Meds can help, but ultimately it’s on you. I would investigate a talk therapist who teleconferences. [/quote]
I’m the OP that should be removed. It is so crazy to me that we have come to a point where every person remotely anxious or sad is slapped with a “mental illness” label and handed a pill. How do you live in a world where every worry is a condition and every sorrow is a sickness? We are witnessing an unprecedented number of people on anti-depressants, and I would argue a small number of these people have chemical imbalances; the vast remainder face truly depressing times without having learned how to cope. It is not. a. mental. illness. to worry about your children’s health or feel hopeless in the face of this crisis that isn’t ending. Stop denying people the agency to be in charge of their life and their thoughts by pathologizing every human experience until they are a passive victim to their feelings. [/quote]

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