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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]WTF... I would leave that school. Too harsh. Way too harsh. Lie there with your eyes closed? Get disapproval if you don't say a greeting at age 3?

Forget about the teacher. I would worry about emotionally scarring your child and giving them anxiety about school which could last for years.[/quote]

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As you can see, you will be by comparison a very reasonable person if you just avoid the hysteria like this person.

I would approach the nap situation with a learning stance - "I was wondering if you could tell me about naptime expectations, in particular for students that do not sleep." and go from there.

As for the entry issue, I would just speak up then and there. Something like "You know sometimes Larla just  needs a minute to warm up and settle in. She's been practicing her "buenos dias" but she sometimes feels shy at first"

And then just keep an eye out. You child sounds sensitive so I would say balance helping your child to develop some resilience with things like the entry issue, but also ensuring that she's getting the love and care she needs at daycare and if not, start looking elsewhere. 
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PP here. This is not hysteria. I have studied child development. The first incident is shaming. Children that age should not be implicitly compared to babies if they are shy. You cannot learn if you don’t feel safe. Basically, teacher should switch to a group greeting so children who don’t say it learn the skill through peer influence and can still feel like they belong even if they aren’t speaking it.

Second incident — child is reporting that they get in trouble if they don’t close their eyes at nap. Big red flag. A child should not be feeling “in trouble” at that age unless they are doing something that hurts others. Opening your eyes while you are not asleep is a natural impulse. Many children stop napping at 3, again that is biological. Instead of this, teacher should accommodate a quiet time with books and quiet activities. Child should not be shamed or even see a face of disapprobation. Imagine if we as adults were made to lie still for an hour with eyes closed everyday and someone told you that you would be in trouble if your eyes opened. It is going to give your child a lot of anxiety to be in this environment, and you should listen to that before it becomes a much bigger problem.[/quote]

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