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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh my god!! Do not move in with this guy without being engaged! That is NOT a good idea. You need to be able to break up with him easily if he doesn’t propose. How old are you both?[/quote]

Early 30s[/quote]

Nope. I wouldn’t waste much more time with this guy. I would start dating other people if he doesn’t propose soon. Do not move in without a ring.[/quote]

What do I do though? Would you all sit him down and start a conversation about it or just wait?[/quote]

You can talk to him about it but I definitely wouldn't just wait around. And DEFINITELY don't move in together, not in your 30s. You'll lose all momentum and leverage, especially since he's someone you basically have to force to move forward.

This isn't going in a good direction, OP. You can't make him want these things and that hurts.

Give him a deadline to get engaged or you'll end it. After two years in your 30s, six months is sufficient. Then keep it moving if he doesn't move forward.

Say you're 32 now. You'll spend the the next year convincing him to move in together, then another three years getting him to propose. Then he won't want to actually plan the wedding or set the date. It'll take two more years, at which point you'll be frantic because of your biological clock and you'll feel like you have sunk all sorts of time into this guy. Meanwhile, he just keeps being him, plodding along.

Find someone who is excited about you and your joint future, someone who's excited to introduce you to his family and friends from the beginning.

Good luck.[/quote]

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