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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DD is almost 5 and will not give up on anything. When I try to help, she gets upset and says I’m distracting her.

Example...yesterday we were at a park with a climbing wall. Dd can’t do it by herself. She doesn’t have the physical strength to make it all the way up. We spent 90 minutes with her trying and falling off every time. I tried offering help, telling her to step back and try something else, telling her which foot holds she could use, encouraging her. She wanted to hear none of it. She finally figured out a path that would allow her to get up all the way with one final nudge from me. Her mood immediately changed and she had a great time. The 90 minutes leading up to that were pure hell and she was upset for most of it.

How do you parent when your kid is really stubborn? [b]Step back and let them do their thing? [/b][/quote]

Yes. Honestly, she didn't need you there for almost any of those 90 minutes.  One or two offers of help would have been sufficient.

I would have been sitting on a bench reading a book and encouraging her from time to time.[/quote]

Even if the kid is yelling and crying in frustration? [/quote]

NP and agree with the PP.  I have a DD who is exactly the same, she gets extremely angry and frustrated but refuses to give up whatever she sets her mind to doing.  It's really hard to watch and disengage, but yeah you just have to let her get through it her way, as long as it's safe.  The only thing you can do is to empathize and let her know that you're there if she needs help.  It's an admirable trait that will serve her well later in life.[/quote]

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