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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DD is almost 5 and will not give up on anything. When I try to help, she gets upset and says I’m distracting her.

Example...yesterday we were at a park with a climbing wall. Dd can’t do it by herself. She doesn’t have the physical strength to make it all the way up. We spent 90 minutes with her trying and falling off every time. I tried offering help, telling her to step back and try something else, telling her which foot holds she could use, encouraging her. She wanted to hear none of it. She finally figured out a path that would allow her to get up all the way with one final nudge from me. Her mood immediately changed and she had a great time. The 90 minutes leading up to that were pure hell and she was upset for most of it.

How do you parent when your kid is really stubborn? [b]Step back and let them do their thing? [/b][/quote]

Yes. Honestly, she didn't need you there for almost any of those 90 minutes.  One or two offers of help would have been sufficient.

I would have been sitting on a bench reading a book and encouraging her from time to time.[/quote]

+1. Same. And yes, even if they're frustrated. You offer to help, they say "NO I CAN DO IT", then you say "okay let me know if you need me." Then let them do it. She's almost 5, she knows how to ask for help if she wants it. Maybe she would have given up, maybe she would have asked for help, maybe she would have figured it out. [/quote]

OP here. Thanks for the advice and I will certainly try to be less intrusive. It was just an eternity for me to watch my child be frustrated like that, but I’ll try not to make it about me.  [/quote]

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