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[quote=Anonymous]I have a good relationship with DS15. At least, so far (I am not so arrogant to not realize that this could change at some point). Part of it is just who he is: sweet, kind, thoughtful. I also think part of it is that I trust his judgment and listen to what he wants and thinks. Early on I let him take the bus places by himself (even if it secretly made me really anxious), earlier than many of his peers. I let him pick his activities. He values my opinion and seeks it out, but I also tend to ask him if he wants to hear my opinion before offering it, and if the answer is no, I don't talk.

Also, I think it is helpful that I work full-time and I talk about my work with him. It means he has a sense I have an identity that has nothing to do with him, and he sees that other people respect my opinion. I think that having that external identity that I share with him gives him some breathing room in our relationship. Like, he knows I love him deeply, but I have an aspect to my life that I enjoy that has nothing to do with him. He often asks me how my day went, and I ask him, and we talk about it.

That doesn't mean we don't have our moments. But we are close, and we enjoy each other's company. I will miss him terribly when he goes to college.[/quote]

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