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[quote=Anonymous]I'm married to a man who has ADD.  He does take medication for it and says it helps at work but I don't see any improvement at home and it is seriously taking a toll on our relationship.  He literally forgets everything (appointments, requests, tasks, etc.) and leaves a complete mess everywhere he goes.  It makes me want to cry.  There is literally actually food on my kitchen floor everyday - whole crackers, raisins, peanuts.  When I say you could eat off of my floor, I don't mean it in a good way. However, its not as though he sees it and ignores it, it's literally as though it doesn't register to him that these things shouldn't be on the floor and he should pick it up. We have a five bedroom home; however, I have NO space of my own.  He has encroached on every single available room in the house with *stuff* he can't bear to part with.  We have had so many arguments about this and he recently told me that when I tell him about the things he's not doing he doesn't like to hear it because it makes his blood pressure go up.  The final straw was this week - he usually sleeps in a room next door (a messy one) because he snores and I can't sleep.  On a scale of 1-10, his snoring is a 10 from the first moment he takes a breath and no position or anything will help.  He's tried the CPAP machine but said it was too uncomfortable.  Well, this week, he decided that the sleeping accommodations in the next room were too uncomfortable so he's back sleeping in our bed.  That means not only am I constantly cleaning up and picking up behind him as soon as I get home from work(after a 1 hour commute and picking up our two kids), by the time I get up to our bedroom to collapse, he is has beat me to our room and is sound asleep snoring.  We have a cleaning service come in every two weeks but I have found lately, that they aren't cleaning the house as well because he has so many piles of stuff everywhere.  I am overwhelmed and feel like I'm banging my head against a brick wall.  Also I have two children (almost toddler and grade schooler) and I don't want them to think that these conditions are normal and end up being as messy and sloppy as he is.  I just want to move away and live by myself with my two kids.[/quote]

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