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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My friend is in a work situation where she has to be in town solo for four months with her 2 kids. She lives overseas.  Before you flame me for saying “give her a break” just know that my limits for hard are somewhat skewed, being a military spouse but also a breadwinner - in fact I came with my then three year old to DC from out of the country by ourselves, rented an Airbnb, started work, started preschool, bought a house, bought a car, moved into the house and set it up on my own.

Anyway back to my friend.  She’s been here since December.  No attempts to make plans.  Ignored my kid’s birthday invitation to see another friend who was in town for a day.  I suggested lunch near her work so kids wouldn’t be an issue- she says “sounds great” but no follow up when I suggest dates.  Basically just flaky no follow up.  I know she’s overwhelmed- I’d love to help but can barely make contact.  So maybe I can’t take the hint - fine.  But what is driving me nuts is I GOT HER THE JOB.  I gave her a glowing reference, at her request.  And then she just flakes out on me.  I really like her but I’m getting so hurt by the situation that I’m beginning to dislike her. I see her FB posts with all the different people she’s hanging out with and feel like I’m second-tier.  She’s too busy for me, but not them.  Her friend was in town for just one day so she skipped my kid’s birthday, but she’s going home in two weeks and probably won’t even see me at all.  So, any advice here? Tell her how I feel? Let it go and write her off? [/quote]

Let it go and write her off. In one breath she's overwhelmed because she's here alone with two kids but in the other breath she's posting all over social about her other social plans that don't involve you = the good friend who recommended her for this job, at her request. She sounds like a user, not someone who's too busy to see you. Strange situation - feels like something is missing from this story. Not saying you're leaving something out but it makes me wonder what her deal is and why she blows you off after you did her a solid. 
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