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[quote=Anonymous]My husband and I are very happily living in Florida. (We moved here from DC five years ago.) We are in our mid-40s. No kids, and we both work remotely - so we can be anywhere.

My parents are in their mid-70s. They live in a nice part of Connecticut. My mom has very serious health problems. The burden of caring for her has fallen almost entirely on my dad, who (thank gd) is so far healthy. My sister lives about an hour away from them. She helps out a little bit but mainly it's just nice she's there to see our folks, and let them spend time with her kids.

Lately I have been feeling very guilty for being so far away, and my husband and I have started considering moving back north so we can be closer. The thing is that I hate the thought of living there - except for being closer to family. I hate the weather, especially. Oh gd I hate the weather. But the thought of my parents being left to themselves while we're here just enjoying ourselves is making me feel so sad and terrible.

My parents do not want to move here, so that's not an option. Either things remain status quo, or we move to them. They have put zero pressure on me to think about this - it's just me, not wanting my parents to have to do this alone; not wanting to miss out on being near them.

I'm just wondering if anyone else has done this - moved someplace they strongly dislike, in order to be near family. If so, what do you wish you had considered before doing it? Or do you have any advice?

Thank you. And man aging is really hard.[/quote]

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