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[quote=Anonymous]Well only drives me nuts some of the time.  Last month I had a cancer scare.  I grew up with a mom whose brain immediately went to worst case scenarios and I've spent most of my life trying to avoid that.  But when something big happens, my anxiety completely takes over.

DH spent 2 years working in a war torn country.  He's been behind a vehicle that blew up.  He's been shot at. This was before we met.  So he has always had a very " whatever happens we will figure it out and we will deal with it" attitude.  He has a hard time understanding my anxiety but is respectful of it.

Now as you can imagine, my mind was firing in 10,000 directions during this scare.  From how to tell DS/family/friends to financial worries because I'd probably have to quit my job (work in healthcare) etc.  DH would just hold me and tell me we will get through whatever happens.  Which is all good and normally I appreciate it but MAN.  Sometimes I want him to freak out.  Sometimes I want him to show more emotion about these things.  I brought it up to him and he apologized but basically said that when you come to terms with your own mortality (being shot at) you develop a "what happens happens and there is no use freaking out about the unknown.  You deal with it when it becomes the known".   The feelings have been brought back up because I have to go for another scan to make sure I'm still all clear.  I'm glad DH is trying to temper my anxiety, and I know it's more healthy in the long run.  But dammit...freak out with me a little!! [/quote]

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