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[quote=Anonymous]A very good friend has completely and totally dropped me. I don't know why.
The ghosting seemed to coincide with her dating a new guy. Now, a year later, I heard through the grapevine that she is engaged.
The odd wrinkle in this is that she has also hired me for freelance design projects (I work in a creative field).
She has continued to reach out with new work.
There is no acknowledgment of her dropping me as a friend, of any common threads in our lives (pleasantries about my kids or her boyfriend, etc),  or ANYTHING. The emails are of the type you woulld pen to a business acquaintance.

This was a good friend. Two years ago, she had been stood up by a different guy on her birthday and asked three close friends to take her to dinner. I was the one who came through. We vacationed together. She wasn't some random person.

Then, suddenly, poof. She stopped texting me, began declining invites, and essentially vanished. I got one mass email about a change of address - she moved in with her boyfriend (and apparently fiance) - and that's it.

I saw her once since then, socially, at a group dinner.She made fake small talk. Then, as dinner broke up, I tried to approach her to ask what was going on and she ran - no embellishment, ran - out of the restaurant saying she had laundry to do.

I feel so sad over this, and the old wound keeps reappearing each time I get a breezy business email.  What makes this all the more rich is that two  years ago, a good friend dropped her like a hot potato and she cried to me about it for hours. Now she's doing the same to me.

She has taken down all social media also.

I am an anxious person. I keep replaying it in my mind, wondering what I did. I berate myself as a flawed  friend, or boring, or somehow or other unworthy and easy to write off - forgettable. I sometimes cry about it.

What do I do? Next time she approaches me for business, do I bring it up? I'm afraid it would make me look desperate and feel very vulnerable (especially after she literally bolted away from me in public).

Has anyone had this happen to them? What could be going on? Help.[/quote]

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