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[quote=Anonymous]We never wanted or planned on having more than 2 children, but now that our kids are elementary-aged, I am suddenly longing for one more. Older kid is 7, younger one is 4, so it would be a large age gap and hard for us to do activities as a family and travel, both of which we all love (our kids are athletic and very adventurous). Also I am in my early 40s and get tired more easily compared to my 30s, although I am pretty high-energy relative to my peers. I come from a line of women with long fertility, but just in case I recently saw a specialist who ran some blood work and tests, and all looks good (for now).

DH is not keen on another :(, and I am afraid that it is a dealbreaker...not sure if I should even try to persuade him about something like this if he is not on board of his own volition. He worries about logistics, even though we are well off and can afford help. However, my longing is very strong and has put a hole in my heart, and it gets larger and more painful every month because I know that my window will close sooner than later. How do you get over something like this?? Our kids are wonderful, fun and great with each other. They were both easy babies. I stay at home with them, but even so I worry about time with each child, time as a family, and the energy to parent 3 in our 40s and 50s. Also we are nervous about potential health risks, although there is early testing available now, but still, there are a lot of issues you cannot flag during pregnancy. I realize that both hubs and I are generally practical, risk averse and not easily swayed by emotions, but sometimes I think that to experience the greatest joys life has to offer, you must take a risk and put in some hard work.

Please, I need helpful advice, both for and against, especially if you have been through this agony! It is something that I cannot keep off my mind. Many of our friends and neighbors have 3 kids and seem happy with their family size, so I am reminded of my yearning every hour of every day.[/quote]

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