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[quote=Anonymous]It is much much better for all involved to hold off on co-habitating for a bit LONGER than really needed, than to rush into it.

So think of the money you are each spend to run separate households, not as wasted, but as invested.  Invested in your children.  They each have a family home to spend quality time with their one parent.  Yes, they enjoy visits with the "extra" family, but it is a HUGELY different thing when the extra family lives in your home.

We were all out of the house when my parents each moved on.  My dad remarried and it instantly made his house feel...different and awkward.  Now, I dont' think he should have put this off because of his adult kid's feeling about it.  But I do think he didn't realize he should have put in some extra effort to see us without the new wife *sometimes*.  My mother also found a new partner, but while they've been together over 15 years, they have never moved in together.  Their relationship is ideal on SO many levels.  They kept things tidy and apart.  His stuff will go to his kids, my mom's stuff to her kids.  Sometimes he hosts his kids at his house and I don't even see them.  Sometimes we all get together.  Sometimes I get my mom alone (this is so vital!).

Anyhow.  If my mom had wanted to live with him, she would have, no matter my feelings on the matter.  But just offering you the perspective of the kid who was a teenager when my parents split (13) and recoupled (roughly 18 or so).  [/quote]

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