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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kid’s godmother smokes and has visited a few times (from out of state). Agree with the PP, it’s not a big deal. She smokes outside and washes up/airs herself out before she goes back to holding or playing with our son. If your MIL is willing to curb the smoking and do it in a designated place away from your kid, I’d make that compromise. A child meeting/spending time with its grandparents and vice versa is important.[/quote]

More important than a little baby inhaling carcinogens?  GTFO.[/quote]

No one is suggesting OP lets her MIL smoke in the house or near the child. Suggestions are that she do it outside and then wash, change clothes etc. The research on third hand smoke and carcinogens (such as what is posted by a PP) is based on smoking indoors—and residue on carpets, surfaces, clothing. That’s not the situation being suggested to OP. Sure, the ideal would be for OP’s MIL or my kid’s godmother to quit smoking. But that’s probably not going to happen—in the godmother’s case she has tried and gone back to it more than once and there’s a lot of trauma in her past. She’s an adult, she knows how we feel about the smoking but in the end I’d rather have her in my kid’s life—flaws and all—than out of it. So we compromise for the dozen or so days a year when she is with us to reduce risks of her habit for the baby.

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