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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How do you make a 4 year old listen to you & follow rules/do things without reminders? Our 4 year old needs to be reminded almost everyday where he should put his backpack/shoes/jackets etc once we come home. He just lay them on the floor. [b]He needs to be reminded it is time to go to bed, it is time to brush teeth, it is time to eat lunch etc.[/b] We always have to remind him to wash hand after potty because he often skips it. We have to help him out to clean the toys because he forgets & he DOES NOT WANT to clean up toys. Is it an age thing that things will get better once he gets older or it is our parenting issues? I & DH feel like we are his nannies, and keep nagging about him all day. We want him to grow up & more independent. And, I have been thinking should I put poster/signs everywhere in the house (e.g. a sign to wash hand after potty next to bathroom faucets (remind me of the restaurant one), a sign saying this is the place to put shoes/jacket) to remind him. I think it may work, anyone do that? Or any other recommendation?
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I think your expectations are too high for a 4yo, especially the bolded part. I have to remind my 10yo to bush his teeth and that it's time to go to bed. I do not perceive it as nagging though. Definitely not with my 3yo. My 3yo knows where to put his shoes and his jacket. Most of the time, he remembers to wash his hands after he used the bathroom, but if he forgets, I remind him. I am not sure if it helped, but I used say: "Don't forget to wash your hands" every time DS went to use the bathroom. So that now he says it himself pretty much every time he is telling me that he is going to the bathroom. There is no way, my 3yo would voluntarily clean up his toys. And even when we tell him, he does not want to do it. Again, my 10yo does not want to clean his room either. With the 3yo, it helps if we do it with him and also give very specific instructions, like "please put the balls in this basket," etc. I may be wrong, but my gut feeling is that no posters/signs will help my 3yo to remember to clean his toys. And although his birthday is not until the fall, I cannot imagine that his executive function will improve that much when he turns four either.  [/quote]

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