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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ve always heard you should adopt younger kids than you have for safety reasons. Older children could possibly harm your younger kids.[/quote]

I am familiar with this adage as well but I was thinking that so long as they were roughly the same age it would probably be fine.  My kids are 6 and twins that are almost 9. I thought for example a 7 and 10 year old would likely be fine. But I’m ignorant here.   I want to be educated. [/quote]

Ugh really? You thought that would be a good idea?

Did you put any thought into this at all? Do even an tiny bit of research?

Having same age children sets up a competition better kids for your time and attention.  Add in that children in foster care have experienced trauma and really need that opportunity to be the center of someone’s attention.

What you are envisioning is that it will be like hosting a very long play date. The kids will move in and just get into the groove of your routine as a family and adjust after a week or so  and that’s that.  You will sign them for sports and extra curricular, you will take cute photos of all the kids and post them to Instagram etc

This reminds me of this woman that was in my foster care training classes. The social worker said to us potential foster parents that wanting a playmate for your child is not a good reason to foster and the woman looked shocked and then admitted that’s why she was signing up. She also didn’t see a problem with hosting various homeless men in her home at the same time she would have a foster child ( she did this as a charitable act - she wasn’t in an relationship with them)[/quote]

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