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[quote=Anonymous]My DC applied for and was invited to interview for a scholarship program at one of her top choice schools. She applied to the scholarship program thinking it was a long shot, but she got invited to interview which is great. The school is about 2 hours from home.

She has always struggled a bit with social anxiety and is in therapy, but it’s mostly been fine and not overly interfering with her life.

She left her email open on our home PC and I’m nosy, so I glanced over her inbox (I know I know) and saw that she got an invite to interview at this really cool program. It was a whole day thing with tours, panels, interviews with faculty, plus a dinner and social hour at a restaurant. She replied to this email: “Dear Dr. so and so — after careful consideration I have recently committed to a different college and will not be at the interview day. I  would like to remove myself from consideration for this scholarship. Thanks, Larla.” UMM, what?! She hasn’t committed to any college (in fact she’s only heard back from one of the seven she applied to). So I talked to her about it.

She admitted that she was too nervous about the whole thing, particularly the three hour dinner/social at the end of the day. “I’m too awkward”; “I’ll look like a fool,” “I wouldn’t have gotten it anyway.” “It’s not worth it.” She basically admitted that she was just going to lie to me and tell me that she wasn’t invited to interview for the program and that would have been that. She also said that she is fine with formal interview but the less formal events like dinner with faculty and students are “too overwhelming” and scary.

I’m kind of seething that she threw away this chance getting a scholarship to a special program at a school she wanted to go. She said that she still really wants to go to this school and be part of the program but “just can’t do” that interview day. Mostly, I’m sad for her. That her anxiety and nerves have gotten so bad that she’d do something like this, and that she hasn’t been forthcoming about it. [/quote]

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