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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband only remembers to take out the trash and recycling maybe 60% of the time and when he forgets he likes to say it’s because I forgot to remind him (I think he’s partly joking but partly not). Meanwhile, other than taking care of himself he literally doesn’t have to remember anything else. I’m the one who has to remember who needs school lunches on what day, who’s library book/homework/anything is due on what day, who needs money for the book fair etc. We both work full time so it’s not like I’m the stay at home parent but it is what it is. Meanwhile, tonight my husband was walking by and I reminded him recycling goes out tonight and he replied “I know!” in a very annoyed tone. I basically told him he doesn’t get to be annoyed with my reminding him if he’s also going to blame me when he doesn’t remember and his response is that he can be annoyed when I remind him when he’s in the middle of doing something else. I know this is a little thing but I’m seriously annoyed by this. He can’t have it both ways. [/quote]

This sounds like my 14 year old! Forgetful but annoyed when reminded. For other things, annoyed if not reminded.
When he’s annoyed, I say his room mates and wife will thank me later.

So you have a man-child who wasn’t raised to help around the house. He hates being told what to do.  Always has and his mom gave up and just did it because it’s easier.

You can try what I do with my teen. Try being indirect. Ask him if it’s recycling or garbage this week (if it alternates) or ask “is it garbage day tomorrow”? Instead of asking,or nagging.

Set up a chore schedule for your kids with dad helping. You might not be able to change your DH but you can train your kids now to be better spouses when they grow up. Maybe he will be less annoyed if your kids remind him.

For other reminders, start asking your kids to help by writing into the calendar.

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