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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If she’s over 18 she’s an adult so there is that you have really no say.

1.No
2. Yes, if she’s living with you how can she date someone you have never met? She can but it would be strange.
3. Over 18 you have no say.
4. Curfew if she’s a high school senior living in your house then she should be respectful of your rules. Obviously a reasonable curfew time like midnight on weekends. If she broke curfew then yes take car if she was driving, but don’t ground completely as she will run towards him.

I’d be more concerned about the not knowing this person at all, what are they hiding.

Either way if she’s 18 you can impose tons of rules but she will push you away.

Try a calm sit down asking to meet the person and get to know them. If you don’t end up liking them bite your tongue, because she needs to figure this out. It stinks but it’s as old as time. You won’t break them up.

This is super hard and no easy answers . 
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OP here. Ugh, yes, this is so freaking hard. We don't know the person because she met him on a dating app (she lied to us at first, but it all came out later) and he didn't come to the door on first date. We did meet him later but he sat quietly saying 'yes' and 'no,' etc. He's also much older (24). She has broken curfew twice now.

I'm at a loss. DH wants to throw her out. I want harmony and to work with her on this. [/quote]

OP again I’m super sorry. And sorry about missing the part she was a junior I wrote senior.

Either way it sounds like he has wormed his way in, unfortunately.

The curfew issue might be your best place to start here.

For example, when discussing punishment because she broke house rules. Not because he kept her out after curfew.

Weeknights since she has school and homework punishment can be related to that as well. Like she can only go out on weekends because she has other obligations. A lot of this is going to be hard and your tone when talking with her needs to be firm but not antagonistic or yelling I know this is so hard to do,

Google him so you know as much as you can about him. Just for your own knowledge. Also Maryland case search if you are in MD. Because why does a 24 year old want to date a high schooler even if she is 18?   Don’t tell her what if anything that you find she won’t believe you.It will just give you information good or bad on how to word when using talking points with her.

I understand your husbands view, but I’d try hard to protect my daughter and it’s harder to do if she leaves home and the whole school issue gets complicated.

Super sorry!

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Thanks. This is useful. I have done as much web research on him as possible, but there's not much there about him (he's also not American so not much on social media). And yes, I think it's totally obvious why he wants to be with her (he can easily manipulate her!). Trying to convince DH to be patient is also just as hard as trying to convince her that she's being used. [/quote]

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