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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Mine was very similar, except she also couldn't fall asleep with anyone in the room, so there was no rocking or lying down with her until she fell asleep, either. She just had to literally drop with exhaustion, even if it meant cheerfully talking to herself for three hours. Once she was asleep she rarely woke up unless she was sick, but it was nearly always a fight to get there. I've definitely heard that "but I CAN'T close my eyes!!!" wail about a million times in the last 12 years! And yes, we also had an outside lock on the door for a while, although when we used it we did at least sit in the hall until she was in bed and quiet.

As she got into elementary school, being able to read in bed for a good long while did help her settle down, so she'd at least be relaxed while she was lying in bed trying to sleep. We set a routine and stuck to it, and were firm about "it's OK if you can't fall asleep, but you have to stay in bed."

Lots of exercise earlier in the day did seem to help a bit, although sometimes it would add tired/jumpy/achy legs to the mix. A large microwave heat pillow (one of those filled with rice or grains) sometimes helped to soothe the aches, and it also added a little comforting weight and helped keep her from jumping around. Sometimes we'd let her lay it across her chest, and that helped keep her still enough to drop off.

A pink salt lamp was a good addition, because the light was warm and soft, not stimulating, bright enough to allay fears but not enough to play by. As she got older we tried to involve her in finding sleep solutions, which I think helped a bit.

I'd say it was probably about 2nd or 3rd grade that she finally made the connection between sleeping at night and how she felt the next day. She eventually realized mom & dad were right, that she did need to sleep, but still just couldn't. But then, knowing she needed to sleep and not being able to created a weird cycle of anxiety. Guided mediations apps would help for a while, then when that stopped working we'd switch to music, then back to meditation. It really helped her to have something to focus on as she was trying to sleep.

She's in middle school now, and knows she needs her sleep, and does her best to make it happen. She's created a space she finds relaxing and a routine that she tries to stick to, and we've worked out a couple of fallback alternatives to lying in bed fretting all night when she has an extra-hard time. She'll sometimes take a dose of melatonin on a bad night, or to reset after a weekend of staying up/sleeping later.

TL/DR: Our similarly crappy sleeper still isn't a great sleeper, but she's stopped fighting us and is really trying find ways to do better.

At 5, you may have a few more years before the penny drops and she stops fighting you (even if she's still fighting sleep, intentionally or not), but you might at least be able to start working on the shift toward an "us vs the problem" mindset. [/quote]

I would recommend cutting out fluoride in your DD's diet as well. I was exactly like this growing up and had trouble sleeping until I as an adult and cut fluoride out of my DC's diet and saw the results. Then cut it out of mine. I sleep consistently well every night -- unless I slip up during the day and drink something or eat something with fluoride in it.

Try giving your DC plenty of calcium chews throughout the day. If that helps, then go on to cutting out fluoride.

The difference is amazing.[/quote]

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