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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I posted this late last night but I guess it got deleted? Wtf, I didn’t think it was that graphic. Anyway I will try to keep it short. What kind of intimacy issue is it when a guy hasn’t had sex for eight years because he’s scared to ask women to have sex? [/quote]

What's the context? Do you mean for one-night stands or in a long-term relationship or casual FWB? 
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We’ve been going out for a couple months and just recently had sex for the first time. He could not get it up and I asked about it. I do not think a relationship is on the table at this point. He has never had a girlfriend and asked me how you can tell if you love someone so I think he may be a lil messed up. Late 20s/early 30s.[/quote]

Performance anxiety?
Autism spectrum?
Schizoid personality?

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Yes, I think he may be on the spectrum. He is very sweet but very awkward and has no concept of how to interact romantically. He did seem to pick up sex quickly but the fact that he doesn’t know how to tell if he loves someone combined with the fact that he didn’t try to have sex for eight years because he’s scared of making women think he enjoys sex was a red flag to me. It just seems like a huge intimacy issue or disorder.[/quote]

Porn?

And, of course, it is a red flag. But it doesn't have to be that way if you are open and accepting. But him not being able to get it up is a concern with this, too.[/quote]
I asked about porn/masturbating and his response was basically “I haven’t had sex for eight years so yeah obviously.” He only couldn’t get it up the first couple times. Now he can and it’s fine. Still has difficulty staying hard the entire time and waits for me to finish, then goes to masturbate. It’s weird but it’s fine on my end so I’ve stuck around a few times. But as I said, I don’t even know his interest in a relationship. He uses very old fashioned, flowery language to describe me and sex with me and then is like “Hey I have a question how can you tell if you love someone? Do we have to have a ton of stuff in common to date each other?” Lol wtf?[/quote]

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