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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You meet a guy who says his marriage is on the rocks. He admits that he had an affair that lasted 4 years but when he mentions initially, he understates it  - says that he would just get together with AP when he was away on business trips which was about a few times a year.
Some time later he says that he actually had been arranging to meet with his AP about every month for 4 years and it wasn't a few random encounters over the same period.

You ask why he lied about the extent of his affair and he says "I was just getting to know you at the beginning. I told you something in confidence and now you're using it against me", as if I'm the person who's in the wrong.

Other than the obvious - the guy is a liar and cheater, what's it called [b]when someone is in the wrong, but instead of admitting they're in the wrong, they accuse the other person of wrongdoing[/b]?
This seems similar to what Trump does. He's accused of some wrongdoing but instead of taking responsibility and apologizing, he goes in attack mode against the accuser; e.g., the media is fake news etc etc.

Is this gaslighting, being psychologically manipulative?

And in case anyone is wondering, no, I'm not in a relationship with this a**hole. I just want to label what is happening if I experience this again. [/quote]

Gaslighting. Or crazymaking, if you will. Projecting also works.[/quote]

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