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[quote=Anonymous]Ugghhh.  I guess anyone who gives an 11 year old Applepay and doesn’t watch it closely deserves this, but still...  there is a good chance the mom doesn’t know.  .

Even a small Starbucks habit is $30 a week, which is $120 a month. And with boys with no budget, it’s probably $40 a week or more.   It’s expensive. And a dessert and a Frappuccino is a lot of sugar and probably caffeine. I would put a stop too it, both because it’s too much money to accept and because it’s really bad for your kid.

Contact the other mom. Praise her kids generosity, tell her that you’d be glad to repay what is owed.  And that your kid can’t accept gifts in the future because... sugar and caffeine make him hyper, he has some dietary limits, whatever.  Give your kid a monthly Starbucks budget and a gift card in that amount.  If he can only get 1 pastry or 1 Frappuccino every week or every other week, so be it.   He can ask for Starbucks cards for his birthday or spend his allowance on it.

It’s really tacky to say “your kids been treating mine.  Is that okay”?  It puts pressure on the other mom to say yes. And even if she does, and means it, are you really okay with your kid freeloading what could be $100-200 of Starbucks a month?  Apparently you are, but... it’s tacky.

Lots of people can’t afford unlimited Starbucks. Lots of people can, but limit themselves because it’s unhealthy.  Most of us limit ourselves somehow—  just stop on Monday mornings, or get the less expensive drink, or get the drink and not the pastry, or whatever.

There will always be kids who can afford things your kid can’t, or get things you don’t want your kid to have.  $300 jeans, a new car, no supervision spending the night with a girlfriend. Might as well learn to say no now. 
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