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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is the 60/40 target because that’s the point where he thinks he won’t owe child support?[/quote]

OP here.  No he is afraid his STBXW will have harmful effects on his child.  They were in counseling for a while about it and she wasn't able to make any changes (i.e. curb her compulsive spending, stop sleeping all weekend, stop trying to get child diagnosed with rare diseases etc.).  Despite years of being on mood stabilizers and in therapy she got a therapist to write a report saying she has no mental illness.  A court appointed pysch recommended my friend get 78% custody lest the kid develop an eating disorder etc.  The attorney for the child suggested her get 60% or more. The STBXW got fired from her job two weeks after my friend filed for divorce and is now trying to say she's a SAHM.  My friend is spending a ton of money and I'm just nervous for him.[/quote]

60/40 is kind of a weird ask instead of 50/50 it's basically 1 or 2 more overnights a week -- what does it represent practically?  that dad has custody on school nights? also, physical custody doesn't address things like getting a child diagnosed.  for that, Dad would need joint legal custody with decision-making power in cases of disagreement or full legal custody.

If both the court appointed psych and the attorney for the child are saying more custody to dad, then that's helpful to him.  Judge is not likely to completely disregard both of them.

Getting fired from job and saying she is now SAHM is also not likely to be viewed beneficially by the court.

Has your friend been an equal care taker of the child?  If not, it will be hard for him to argue she is dangerous or unable to care if he has left the kid in her care prior to the divorce.

OTOH, if the child has been in daycare and the mom was working the whole time, then the judge will probably want to continue that (and your friend should be arguing for that).  
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