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[quote=Anonymous]OP maybe you should just start by being mindful or what you're saying that might be negative.  Don't try to change yet; just be aware of it.

After a week or two, you'll probably notice some patterns.  Once you've discovered what you complain about, you can approach it with an eye towards problem solving, or reframing.

For example, if your commute just sucks and you hate it and are grumpy when you get home, you could try listening to audio books or comedy shows or something that might otherwise cheer you up.

If there isn't a way to problem solve, then you can always try to reframe.  There is almost always a positive spin you can put on the little things.

Just an example: we all had a stomach bug last week and it was no fun.  But, I was also thinking about how amazing our bodies are at expelling stuff when we're sick, and how quickly our bodies heal from something like that.  It's really just incredible if you think about it.  Also, we were all off work and school anyway, which made the timing of the bug no big deal really.  And the kids are finally old enough that they can just veg out in front of the TV so it was easier for us when we got sick and were too wiped out to watch them.

So many positive things about the stomach bug!

I kept this mostly to myself, though.  I'm not really a pollyanna telling everyone to look at the bright side.  I personally think it's okay to feel bummed about something.  I guess I just do most of this processing internally.
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