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[quote=Anonymous]We do the gratitude etc type conversations at dinner already. He often chooses not to participate, however, as it rubs him the wrong way. He also does not like it when I thank him for what he does around the house and with kids and for me, and doesn't count that as a positive interaction. I do thank him amd the kids for the work they do. I know Gottman reccomends 5 positive interactions for every negative one, and turning toward rather than away. I try to follow both of those principles. I'm really wondering what I must be doing that is coming off as complaining; I'm generally an optimistic person. I do tend to avoid conflict, but I've been trying not to do that as much, although not aggressively. More like coming back to a conversation later on to say how it made me feel (not blaming). But there isn't much conflict in general right now (or simply ever). Anti depressants is a thought.[/quote]
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