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[quote=Anonymous]Instead of “How was your day?” type questions, I pose questions oriented around the good stuff like “What was the best part of your day?” or “What was your favorite thing you learned at school?” I try to give compliments on behavior, even expected behavior, to let my loved ones know that I notice and care about their positive contributions —“Thanks for your help setting the table,” “You did a really nice job picking out a gift for Grandma,” “I appreciate the way everyone was on time this afternoon; it made our busy day much easier.” I also make sure that we have a pre-set division of household labor. If we know who’s taking out the garbage, setting the table, cleaning the bathroom, etc., it lets everyone do their household jobs on their own time without nagging. It also helps to show that labor division is fair and that no one person or small group is expected to carry too much responsibility. Last, we try to do things that build positive capital with each other. It’s easy to get busy and lead separate lives in the same house. So it’s important to have some regular things that help you to interact in ways you enjoy. It could be watching movies, game night, hiking, baking, whatever. That said, your DH should be able to state more precisely what, exactly, is getting under his skin. If he’s the only one with a problem, maybe he’s the problem. Don’t walk on eggshells.  [/quote]

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