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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The problem is that he’s using a mental illness to say mom should only get 40% time, but if the kid is safe with mom 40% of the time the kid is probably safe 50% of the time. He’s better off being as amicable as possible with mom so that he gets extra time when mom needs additional support - rather than burning that bridge entirely. [/quote]

This. My ex is mentally ill. I offered him 50/50 but he never took it.  When the kids were little I invited him to our house to have dinner with kids and put them to bed. Even on his best days handling two of them entirely solo is overwhelming and anxiety-provoking. On his less well days he made transparently false excuses about why he couldn’t come, which I graciously accepted as true and stepped in with caring for the kids without complaint.

As a result, over time, he never had physical custody but visits with them multiple times a week on a pretty regular schedule. I have 100% custody with visitation 2 weekday evenings and 1 weekend day.

It was definitely a case of getting more with kindness than conflict. [/quote]

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