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[quote=Anonymous]This is partly a vent and partly I need advice on how to explain to my husband how I feel. My sibling is getting married and my 3 children (ages 5-8) are in the wedding as are my husband and I. We are all very excited and I'm sure it will be a wonderful weekend but it's a lot of work getting everyone ready and where they need to be at all the various times we need to be specific places (hair, nails, makeup, dressed for photos etc). I'm always stressed about being places on time, I just don't like being late, but it annoys my husband and he hates that I get stressed and then we are usually the first people wherever we are going. The wedding weekend though we really can't be late. He was asking me about the schedule for the weekend and I was just telling him when we needed to be where. I told him I would try not to act crazy but if I do he is welcome to NICELY tell me I'm acting crazy and it will be ok. His response is to tell me it's ok if we're late. I told him when he says things like that, whether he means it or not, I hear "I'm not going to try to be ready on time" and it just adds to my stress. I tried to explain that he can tell me "it will be ok, we have plenty of time", or just "it's ok" but he's just not getting how I'm feeling and I feel like he's purposely trying to annoy me because he just refuses to see why that bothers me and just keeps insisting it doesn't matter if we're late and I just need to "get over" my anxiety about being late.

On top of that, we have to be at the wedding location early to get ready there. I have to get ready first so I can help my SIL get ready and then I'll come back to our room to get the children ready before pictures. My husband and the children will have a couple of hours of sitting around in the hotel but they all have tablets and I'm bringing plenty of food as well. You'd think I asked a 3 year old to sit still and not move for 3 hours the way my husband is acting about having to get to the hotel 2 hours early. He's upset that I won't let him bring his virtual reality headset to the hotel and I don't understand why he can't manage with his smart phone and tablet for that time. The children aren't complaining about having to go early and are happy to have the opportunity to use their tablets more than they are usually allowed. Am I not understanding something or is he just being difficult? And how can I explain to my husband that this is stressful for me and he's not helping but adding to it.[/quote]

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