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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would visit on a different day.  At this point, Christmas is over.  Its hard to find a balance if everyone is not committed to it.  You have now through Christmas so just go visit.  Why do you need a specific reason? And, wait till closer to next Christmas and decide.[/quote]

Are you an adoptee or a member of the triad? Have you ever actually been through something like this, personally?[/quote]

I am a parent through adoption.  I prefer my child's birth mom's family so if I ever have the choice I choose them.  Yes, we've been through it many times.  I talk to them a few times a week regularly.  The difference is we all make the effort and we don't distinguish biological, birth, or what ever and we just call each other family.  They treat us like one of their kids and we treat them as our inlaws/grandparents.

In your situation, Christmas is over.  You have 11 months before you need to worry about this.  You have plenty of time to go and visit or invite her to visit and create a relationship.  It doesn't need to be on Christmas and if she is older/may not live much longer waiting till next Christmas makes no sense.[/quote]

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