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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH and I are visiting my son/DIL and grandkids for the holidays. We arrived on the 22 and are set to leave Monday morning.

In many ways, it's been a very nice visit. Christmas itself was wonderful. Good time with the grandkids, and my son and his wife have cooked, cleaned, and been gracious in many ways. I would like to think that DH and I have been helpful, too. We've played with the kids, and offered to bring/make/buy food. We've offered to cook, clean, do laundry, shop, anything that would be helpful.

[b]DIL for the past day or two has seemed distrant and increasingly irritated. I can't seem to do anything right with offers to help. Instead of coming downstairs after the kids are in bed like she did the first few nights, she now just hides. She made coffee and doted on us the first few days, and now is very "help yourself," which is fine, but I don't understand why she has to be cold and distant. [/b]

I honestly don't know what to do. We're not scheduled to leave yet, and I don't want to miss time with the grandkids. [/quote]

This makes me go with the PP who suggested that she might be an introvert.  They truly need time alone (and an hour doesn't do it) to recharge.  Things like offering to do the dishes are nice gestures but when an introvert is suffering from overload they just want to be alone--even if it means just doing the dishes without speaking to anyone.  I agree with getting out of the house by yourselves or with the kids for a few hours but honestly, don't expect her to be that much different when you get back.  Please try not to take it personally.  Most likely it's really not about you, your DH or anything you've done.  It's about your DIL being on overload.[/quote]

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