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[quote=Anonymous]OP, it is a red flag if you husband is unable to cultivate his own friendships.  I speak from experience.  While it is very common for wives to take on the lion's share of responsibility when it comes to organizing dates and cultivating friendships after marriage, after 20 years of marriage I've learned that there are 2 reasons this happens - some men are introverted and get enough socializing through whatever friends his wife brings to the table, or they are actually lack the skills necessary to build friendships on their own.  
I remember my DH getting upset a few years after we had kids, saying that I "never let him see his friends anymore."  I was flabbergasted, because I couldn't think of a single time he even proposed seeing them, let alone me shooting him down.  Then it hit me:  prior to having kids, he abrogated responsibility for socializing to me, and I LITERALLY had to set up play dates for him - contacting his college friends if I knew they were coming to the area and setting up a time to host dinner, etc.

Moral of the story - you both take responsibility for your respective friendships.  Neither of you should have to spent a significant amount of time hanging out with any friends that you don't enjoy.  If he wants to see a particular couple, he organizes it.  Done. [/quote]

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