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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it's good you're being proactive with this. My DH won't raise the issue and instead leaves me as the wife feeling ran over. He says, well they won't visit so we should go to them instead always. His parents feelings shouldn't come before mine and I think DH should talk to his parents about their lack of visiting. It should be more equal.[/quote]

So you’re participating in this, yes? If so, that’s on you. You do not have to visit with him. Let him go visit his parents without you. [/quote]

I'm not sure why people post this. We'd never go visit parents without our spouse. If we did, I'm sure either set of parent would think there's significant dysfunction and looming divorce. Also, I wouldn't want my DH to take my kids away for an entire weekend. Weekends are for having fun with my kids and enjoying my little family. [/quote]

And I’m not sure why people would martyr themselves by making long treks that they don’t want to do simply because it won’t “look right.” The dysfunction is already there if one spouse is continually putting the desire visit their parents over their spouse’s objection. If you enjoy visiting, then great. But if you don’t AND you’re resentful AND you’re not exercising your option to stay home, that is on you. You give up your right to complain about being “run over” if you’re choosing to do nothing about it. [/quote]

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