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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Question: Does it irritate your skin when your children touch you, or only your husband? Does any touch of his repulse you, such as holding hands or a hug, or only more intimate touches? Does the thought of giving him a bj repulse you or only being a recipient of his advances? [/b]

It seems like your body got bombarded by so many unpleasant physical sensations after your kids came that it is a conditioned response now to dread intimate touches even when the nursing is over. Also with the painful pumping you were turning your body into a milk producer without the wonderful physical and emotional sensations that come with breast-feeding. And he's not attuned to your sleep needs and concerns.

Yes, seek counseling. There is a name for what you've got... I forget what it's called but it's a very real psychological condition. A friend's husband had it so badly they never even consummated their union after ten years. The right sort of therapist who is knowledgeable about this disorder might be helpful and also might provide guidance about how to communicate your difficulties to your husband.[/quote]

OP here.  No, I don't feel annoyed and my skin isn't irritated when my kids touch me.  And most of the time, my husband's touches don't upset me either- I love to hug him and feel him rub my back, even hand on skin.  Oral doesn't bother me either.  It's hard to explain.  I guess sometimes I feel like DH isn't the most skilled lover (though I'd hate to see how I rate in bed), though he's certainly an enthusiastic one, and I don't know if the perceived clumsiness of it annoys me.  The more I try to articulate my feelings, the more I think to myself that I'd better get myself to a therapist.

DH, while a wonderful father, can run out of patience with the kids sometimes.  He then can snap at times, and I think him doing this makes me lose a little respect for him, which can then translate into bedroom issues for me.[/quote]

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