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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Family counseling, NOW!!![/quote]

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Your idiot family who say you are no fun will also mock you when DH Taika to them about your insistence on counseling. You'll have to be strong, OP. But you yourself said it: "This is just one facet of a bigger problem and I have to be so choosy about picking my battles."

THAT is the real issue, not only the horror and fantasy movies and podcasts.

Your "stubborn" DH is doing actual damage not only by not knowing OR CARING about the idea of "age-appropriate" but also by ensuring his wife has to walk on eggshells all the time and has to live life "choosing battles" lest she set off his...anger? Mockery? Disregard for your knowledge as a parent and agency as an adult? All of those, OP?

He sounds like a man-child who has bonded with your older child over fantasy and horror so he is rushing to push younger child there too because dad cannot or will not see younger child as a kid barely in preschool age. And the treatment of you is not the treatment one gives a thinking, intelligent partner.

When you have that "it's counseling and it's not negotiable" talk, I guarantee he will make it only about your uprightness re: movies and books. YOU see that the issue is larger and deeper and is between you and him, not between you and what he will insist is your tightass hatred of "his" interests.

See the forest here, not the trees. The real problem, not the symptom. This is about his own self-centeredness and your marriage's imbalance (because you are tiptoeing around the person with whom you should be most relaxed). Professional help, starting immediatrly. Go alone if he refuses. Meanwhile for short-term backup I'd get my pediatrician to call us both in and say shed noticed our child was super anxious and clingy and talking about horror stories. But our ped would do that if I asked her to and primed her with the problem in advance them asked her not to out me as setting up the talk. It's a subterfuge but seriously, your DH sure as hell won't hear this from you right now.

Oh, and LOTR films are great but not for kids. Beheadings, skewerings, horrific looking creatures. Hard, hard no. [/quote]

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