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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why so antisocial? Why even pretend?[/quote]

Marital harmony? My last IL visit ended with a huge screaming match with MIL and also co.busted with BIL's wife. I finally didn't pretend. They showed up and stayed, univited, for 3 days knowing I was extremely ill. They proceeded to snipe and make nasty snarky comments about what a poor host I am, which I called them out on. Unfortunately MIL decided to really kick things off by coming into my bedroom Sunday morning to shout about how her son doesn't respond quickly enough to her texts/calls and why isn't she invited over more? She admitted feeling neglected because she only invites herself over every other week. Quite literally and no, she didn't knoxk before entering. She lives 2h away. She was all upset because SO confronted her about harassing me about the unopened boxes in our garage from the recent move and her insisting I begin immediately unpacking them with her at 9pm on a Saturday night.

Needless to say, the timing of all this is awkward but I'm not sorry. The best gift you can give yourself is sparing the dread and resentment of dealing 3unpleasant people. This just happened to be a good opening after particularly egregious behavior to remind/enforce boundaries. They'll either shape up or be sent home. Life is short and their behavior is escalating over time into consistently verbally abusive.

For more reasonable people, I bring food & drinks, set up games, tickets to an event/movie, whatever. Or I just announce I'll be having a walk for fresh air or a rest and see them in a bit.
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