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[quote=Anonymous]How much of this have you told your husband?  He knows that you don't want to be sexually intimate, and he might actually feel better if you talked to him about it, especially because it's related to birth and breastfeeding/pumping.  It sounds like a lot of women find sex painful while they are breastfeeding/pumping because the hormones make you dry and tight.  Are you still pumping?  I would recommend talking to an ob/gyn again as well as getting checked out for mild depression.  A good counselor should be able to suggest some problem-solving strategies, as well as talk about any underlying issues (fear of getting pregnant again based on your last experience?).

I wonder if having sex with your husband when you feel repulsed is making it worse because it's not at all pleasurable for you.  Can you talk to him about taking sexual intimacy off the table completely (or at least limit it to you getting him off in other ways that don't involve him touching you )for a month or so while you get checked out?  You clearly love him, think he's great, and want to get back to being sexually intimate--hearing all of those things shoud soften the blow, which really won't be news to him.

I hope things get better soon.[/quote]

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