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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Give it time.  You will stop feeling bad about it. [/quote]
I hope so. I think what I’m doing is looking at it though the lenses of a loving parent who puts a lot of positive energy into her relationship with her children, and feeling empathy for that parent. But MIL isn’t that parent, so I shouldn’t. DH knows this, I know this, but I don’t think MIL does. In a strange way, I pity her. I’m sad for her that she wasn’t a better parent. That probably makes no sense. [/quote]

It makes perfect sense to me.  You have some empathy for your MIL over a situation that would devastate you if you were in her shoes.  Also, something I've thought about every time I've lost someone I care about is that people that love you are truly priceless, and when they are gone, you have one fewer person standing between you and the cruel world, and your foundation is shakier than it was before.  DH's mom should be in that category, and this split sort of confirms that she's not and never will be.  It probably makes your DH seem more vulnerable in the short term, even if it turns out to be a healthy development.[/quote]

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